Episode 33 - All Things Manifestation with Brittney Jones (aka Brittney CEO)
Happy New Year! This week I chat with @brittneyceo about all things manifestation in entrepreneurship.
I am not typically one to believe in all of the "woo woo" when it comes to opening a business because I have always felt it goes against some of my religious beliefs in trusting in God but Brittney opened my mind to a whole new process around mindset.
I open up about some of my biggest fears and share my feelings of unworthiness- feelings I am sure many of you can relate to.
Brittney has coached hundreds of business owners with her 1 on 1 coaching and courses. And the coolest thing? She started out in network marketing!
Take a listen back to my previous episode Go Ugly Early as I share some of my mindset struggles around starting this podcast! It's a good one.
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I had one person that was willing to listen to me. So if I was not willing to speak to that one person, what would a room of a hundred have made a difference of? So even in, okay, tactical. Even if you get to the Instagram stuff, people are always like, how do I grow? How do I grow my following? How do I grow my following?
How do I get thousands of people? I'm like, listen man, if you're not even speaking to the 15 that you've got, what is the thousand gonna do? 2000, 3000? I mean, if you can't get 15 people to fall in love with you, you're not gonna get 30,000 to fall in love with you . So like, let's just be real here. Speak to who you are.
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Hey everybody, welcome back to this week's episode of the podcast. I am really, really excited for this interview because it kind of taps a little bit more into the woo woo side of what I do and believe it or not, although this podcast has a lot of tactical stuff and mindset shifts. Um, I am really into the energy of the entire universe, and for me, the universe was created by God himself, and, you know, whenever people talk about manifestation, um, there's a lot of hoopla in the Christian community regarding whether that is anti Christian or Pro Christian or is it not or whatever?
And I am really excited to dig into this because I am a Christian and she's a manifestation expert. And I am kind of curious on how, uh, how the two blend, I have my thoughts on it, which I'll share later, but I would love to know like the tactical side or the energetic side of what you teach, um, how you've lived your life, how you built a business.
So everybody, I want you to meet my new BFF, Brittany. So Brittany, will you please tell us. Who you are, what your life was like, what you do, all the things, the floor is yours. Hi everyone. Welcome to 2024. I'm so excited to be here. And thank you for having me as Tiffany said, I'm Brittany and I'm more commonly known online as Brittany CEO.
So, um, you'll, you'll find me there on Instagram, but yeah, it's interesting what you say about the manifestation conversation. And it's funny hearing you say I'm an expert in it because. I never used to be, and I used to think this was all way too woo woo. And I never implemented it in my business. And I was very tactical and down to strategy.
So I loved hearing that side from you, but I started my business very organically. Actually, I was just doing social media because I loved social media. And businesses started reaching out to me and they were like, Hey, can you help me with this whole business? Like Instagram thing? And I was like, sure. And they're like, can I pay you?
And I was like, really? I thought like, Oh my gosh, I can get paid for something like this. That's amazing. Like, yes, please. Yeah. I was like, okay. So I started just doing marketing and social media for people. And as I started to grow my business, I started coming up across I'll call it a lot of walls or a lot of obstacles as I was scaling and growing my business.
And I started to learn more about mindset and that started to lead me down the path of manifestation and manifestation energy mindset has been a big part of my business growth journey ever since. And it's really what I attribute my. Massive jumps inside my business too. And now that's what I love sharing on inside business, inside my social media accounts with my clients is helping them move from that tactical place and being able to add these things into what they do too.
Okay. So I am really dying to know as Brittany, as a little girl, were you like head in the clouds daydreaming? Oh, I will do all kinds of amazing things in my life. And they were like, Hey girl. Focus, focus, or were you kind of more tactical, rugged, systematic? Like, what was Brittany like as a little girl?
That's such a good question. I was a type A person, like straight A's in school, focused, like did all my work, like was going to do the plan of university. I did go there, like the typical follow through method. And, um, I wasn't a dreamer. I went and got a job at a bank right after school and took very traditional paths at first.
So I never really saw myself doing something like this, nor did I believe I could. My belief was never there either. I would say that was from a very young age too of just, you know, like I didn't dream or do big things. I just kind of did what everyone else was doing. Oh my gosh. Isn't that like the, the melancholy life of the common folk, right?
Well, we go to, we graduate high school, we go to college, we graduate, we get a nine to five, we work our ass off up to the corporate ladder. And then, you know, if you're a woman, you get into middle management and that's about as far as you go. And then you're like, and now what? And then you're you know, tied between, do I have a family?
Do I not, do I chase the career to have this richness in life? Okay. So then what shifted for you, you were doing the bank thing and then how did the whole social media thing come up outside of clearly just social media being the draw, such as it is. How did you make a shift to start? Like, what were you even promoting on social media for companies to find you and be like, Hey, you do that really well.
Why don't you do that for us? I absolutely hated my bank job. And I remember, you know, I had a cushy little office and I was young and they were telling me to give people advice on money. And I thought, this is the strangest thing I've ever heard. I don't even have any money on my own. And what do you want?
You want me to tell people what to do with their money? Like I had no idea what I was doing. And so I met a lot of people through the bank. And my first question was always, what do you do for a living? It was like, I was searching for Something else through them and the people that were vibrant or, um, just, they had a personality about them.
They just had that air when they walked in. I was like, what do you do for a living? Cause you must really love your life. And I actually got introduced to network marketing while I was at my bank job. I remember this woman, she's still one of my best friends today. And she came into the bank on like a random Thursday and she's like, well, I'm going out for lunch after this with my girlfriends.
And I thought, what do you do? You get to just go out for lunch with your friends in the middle of the day. And so I stayed really close to her and learned a lot from her at the beginning of just. Trying things for yourself and actually going for it. And she's the one that gave me the courage to just start posting on my social media account more.
And I was just posting my life. I wasn't even posting about business products, but businesses that knew me or bumped into me at the bank, they knew I had this account and they knew I knew how to use my own Instagram account and they thought maybe I could give them tips for their own. And so. I got asked out to dinner a couple of times by some businesses so that they could pick my brain.
And back then I was all for that. I thought, sure, this is great. Someone wants to take me out for dinner to actually show them Instagram. And, and then someone offered to pay me and I had no clue what to charge them. I remember that. I remember calling my parents thinking like, what do you even charge someone for this?
Like, that's not even fair. Like that's how far. Back. My mindset was, I just didn't even feel like I was worthy to charge back then. That's how I feel like, cause I'm working on a speaking business and that's really like where my heart is. And, uh, I got to thinking about that too. I'm like, well, somebody asked to pay me.
I have no idea what I would tell them. Like. I don't know, a couple hundred bucks, but it's like, no, no, no. I know it's more than that, but I'm like, pretty sure I'm not in the, uh, 10, 000 range yet, but I'm going to be up against that same thing. Like, I have no idea how much to charge you. So super interesting.
And I love the fact that I don't script out my podcasts. And I love that I don't have in depth conversations with the people that I am having a new conversation with, because I didn't know that, that your entire. Business and like your business is big, right? Yeah, it's it's massive. We have lots of people that work on our team now, too, which is I mean, your eyes lit up.
You were like, yeah, I mean, trying to be modest, but knowing the truth, you're like, yeah, yeah, it's big. I mean, huge. And it all started with network marketing and, you know, For you, I'm assuming that's not where your heart was, but that was the launching point. That was where you started really digging into who you were, what you could offer, how you could help other people in this world.
And then, so clearly. I think most network marketing companies are all about the tactical mindset stuff. Like, okay, we've got to like high five yourself in the mirror, you know, shout out to Mel Robbins. She's awesome. And that is kind of her thing. Give yourself a high five in the mirror. Cool. I've done it.
I can't say that it like changed my life or, you know, there's the miracle morning. Um, I don't remember the guy that did that, but I read that book too. Like I've read all the books and I can't say that any one of them has particularly changed my life. I have also read a lot about manifestation and I just.
Don't quite get it. Like I get think positively, but it's gotta be more than that. Right? Like it's gotta be so much more dense and layered, although so many people get online and make it sound simple. Like, well, you just think it and it will be, I'm like, y'all I've thought about a lot of stuff and it ain't being, so tell me, tell me, you've got to let the, all the people know exactly what this is about.
And dig into it. Okay. Yeah. It's so funny because I've read all those books too. And that's how I was. And like, I, you know, I think network marketing is a brilliant career and Tiffany did not pay me to say this. Like, I truly believe that. And I always say to people, if you want to learn a lot about business, go join a network marketing company.
Cause you're going to get such great foundational things that. You know, you'll skip a lot of years of learning all on your own. I really am a big fan of it, but moving from those, like, like, cause what a lot of those books share, or a lot of people share in the mindset world and the tactical side is like, it's all to do lists.
It's like, do a gratitude list, get up at 5 AM. Um, learn the compound effect like there's all these different things that you're doing, but manifestation is more about who you're being. And that's the biggest difference for me. And so, when you really think about manifestation, it's the blend of taking action, which would be your doing side.
So doing things. So, for some people, it might light you up to do a gratitude list that might put you in the right vibration. It might. be the 5 a. m. routine. It might be high fiving yourself in the mirror. Those are your to do action items, but also it's about the energy and who you're being at that next level that's going to start to close the gap for you, and it's the blend of both that creates manifestation.
I think a lot of people think manifestation is just about thinking because that's what it's often said on the internet, right? It's like you were saying. I always joke with clients. I'm like, you can't just Sit on the couch and just like hope that a million dollars is going to land in your lap. It doesn't work like that.
So the, the blend and the bean is a big difference maker in that. Okay. So I'm thinking about the, the being part because like if you're broke, right. And you're like, okay, I'm trying to manifest a thousand dollars into my bank account so I can give my kids Christmas. Right? How do you, and I'm, does the term acting as if apply to the manifestation conversation?
Totally. So how do you act as if you are a mother with a thousand dollars in her bank account to give her children a beautiful Christmas when you in fact do not have a thousand dollars in your bank account? You think your water is about to get shut off. Your heat has already been cut off. How do you even get there?
It's like you need a bridge, but how do you even get there? And maybe you are doing the doing part. Maybe she's slinging fries at a local diner. Like she's doing the thing. And she's like, if somebody would just come in here and drop a thousand dollar tip, um, which I have been to a restaurant at Christmas and I've not dropped a thousand dollar tip, but I did drop 50 to one and a hundred dollars for another.
And my bill was Not a thousand dollars in food guys, but I did, I live very large tips. And in fact, I usually do Instacart, um, during the holiday season and have my groceries delivered because I want to give somebody a reason to celebrate. So I tip them. Well, and I'm curious to, okay, I'm going off all kinds of things because now my brain is like spinning with this acting as if do other people.
Okay. Answer the first question. How do you act as if, and then the second question, hopefully we don't forget it is how do other people in the realm of our plane of existence here on this planet. Factor into that energetic equation, because maybe the acting as if, like, I somehow come into that by leaving a huge tip.
Like, tell me about that. This is getting me, like, really excited. These are all good questions. I'm going to forget some of them, but we will get to them all. The acting as if part. I'm so glad you brought this up because there, I believe there are different points on our journey where it is easier to act as if, and there are times where it is a lot harder.
And so you're talking about the point where maybe you feel like you don't have the money right now and you, you do desperately needed to have a great Christmas. There's a lot of untangling in your own mindset and your worthiness to be able to act as if, because you can be doing the doing, but if you don't believe you're worthy of it, and you don't believe that could ever happen for you, or you're the kind of person where, you know, good things happen, but then you go two steps backwards, or you never quite get there.
The stories you're telling yourself behind the scenes are what's playing out in your reality, not necessarily Like, okay, I decided I'm going to have 1, 000 for Christmas. That doesn't matter because what's running around in the background is what's actually going to play out for you in the forefront. So the best thing that you can start doing is writing out exactly how you feel about money or exactly how you feel about that 1, 000 landing in, you know, if you don't believe something like that's possible or things like that never happened to me, or, you know, my credit card.
Debt is so high. You know, I feel guilty for not having any extra room right now. There's a lot of things that are going to come up for you and I can't really say exactly what would come up for you in your mind, but it's a pen to paper situation. Write it all out. What are the weird thoughts that are coming up for you when you think about manifesting that thousand dollars?
What are the fears, the doubts? disbeliefs, start making a giant list for yourself on a piece of paper. And once you feel like you kind of got it all out there, and there might be some really strange things that come up, you know, like I've had strange things come out on the paper, like when I was bullied in grade six, just go with it, get all the things out on paper, because you don't realize what your mind might be chewing on behind the scenes, get it all out in front of you, and then I want you to start looking at each line, line by line and asking yourself, is this ultimately true?
Yeah. And I say to myself, like, you know, did God write this in the sky that Britney is not allowed to have 1, 000 at Christmas? I think when you can write it that way to yourself or picture it that way, you can see how, like, Just you can detach yourself from it a little bit. It's not an ultimate truth that you can't have a thousand dollars or you can't have someone walk into the restaurant and give you a massive tip today.
But for some reason, we start to block that worthiness in ourselves and it cuts off all the manifestation. So that's the first like tactical piece and being able to act as if is getting all of your stories out on paper. So you can actually see what your mind's chewing on. what your disbeliefs are about it so that you can choose a new thought so that you can actually start to act as if.
Makes sense. Okay. So yeah, this is exactly what my business coach teaches. So she, it's called a brain dump, and you get everything out on paper and like, here are my thoughts for the day. And they're not right, they're not wrong. They're, they're just neutral, right? You just neutrality and then you have to start looking at it and saying, okay, what is a fact?
Okay. So if you say. I am lazy. Okay. Is that a fact? Like, is it reproducible in the court of law? Could somebody else come over and over and over again and be like, lazy, lazy, lazy, lazy. Yep. Fact. It's lazy. Well, probably not because there's probably something in this world that you're excited about that you would chase after.
Through a burning building, if you needed to, to acquire or be part of. So you, in fact, are not lazy. You are just not motivated by X, Y, and Z. Enter my 12 year old kid who I recently was like, is he just a lazy kid? And it was like, well, he's not lazy. He just wasn't motivated to do math. Like maybe you are one of those.
Freaks that are excited about math, but he wasn't one of them. So I had to find something else, but the story he was telling himself, probably because I was thinking it for a minute, um, there you go. Bad mom moment was that he was a lazy kid. And I said, no, you're not lazy. You're just not motivated. So let's find something, you know, that you want to chase after.
So furthermore, once you do that, you have to separate what are stories and what are facts. If it's not reproducible in the court of law, that is not a fact about you. That is a story. And guess who gets to change the narrative? I talk about this on the podcast, on my IG all the time. You do, you get to control the stories that happen in your head.
Your previous experiences are feeding into that. But you get to control that narrative because it's happening inside your own head. So the second part of that question was, how do other people come into that energetic equation? So after you have been like, yeah, I'm worthy of a thousand dollars. Why wouldn't I?
I do well at my job. I show up on time. I provide excellent customer service. I took that roast beef back like four times and got it right. You know, and there was no saliva at the end of it. Like I am. Worthy of getting a big tip from the next customer that walks through the door. So how do other people, other than just being a generous human, how do other people play into the energetic side of that manifestation?
Being as if, acting as if, and changing your brain. How do other people pull into that? This is where the Wu side really starts to come in, because this is where you start to put yourself on the energetic field of where that's possible, where those people are also playing at. So you would never enter the field of those generous people who also believe in spreading positivity or who are also looking to give back at this season.
You just wouldn't enter that arena, that playing field, had you not decided you were worthy of it, and the universe would have just sent that thousand dollars somewhere else. Oh my gosh, I'm like, my mind is getting totally blown into a whole new level of understanding right now. Yeah, this is like, and this is the part that I used to have a hard time believing in because I was like, what?
You just like, magically attract these things to you? But I would encourage you to just have fun with it and make it a game, you know? Like, like, what if you could? Decide this month that you're gonna manifest 1000. What if that was something you just played with lightheartedly to see what could come through for you because once you start playing in different ways that aren't as emotionally charged, I would pick something that's not like a do or die right now, because the more emotions you have tangled into this, the harder the manifestation process really is.
But if you can start playing with a few things that You know, at the end of the day, it's not going to make or break things. You'll start to see how quickly these things can come together and opportunities start coming out of nowhere. For example, like Tiffany, you're starting your speaking business. It's this like, what if you manifested some really cool gigs in January?
And it's like, like, you know, those opportunities seemingly come out of nowhere, but you've put yourself on that energetic plane where people are sending out those invites all the time for your exact conversations. Let's talk about manifestation gigs in 2024 this year, I just like went big early, uh, one of my podcast episodes, if you guys haven't listened to it, you need to go back.
I think it might be the first one is called go ugly early. And it's really like, just get out there and do the big thing. So I still laugh at myself because I pitched myself. Okay. I've never spoken on a stage. Okay. Okay. Bye. Lies. I have spoken on a stage, I taught a workshop, customer service satisfaction, gar, you know, all that beautiful stuff for my company a few years ago at our conference.
So I did speak there. Um, and that was a whole lot of fun. But that was the only, Nope. I did plan . I did do a talk at the library. Okay, you guys, oh, I was like, I'm a badass. I have got this . Like I made flyers. I sent it out. The library was like, yeah, you can talk about, and it was talking about. Like choosing safer products for your body and for the environment and for your family, yada, yada, yada.
I was like, I had the chair set up. The room was ready for at least a hundred people. You guys. One, one human showed up and she. God bless her. She was so sweet. She's sitting there. She's like, well, let's just wait five or six more minutes. Maybe people will come. And I'm looking around, like my heart is starting to, you know, that like tension in your chest.
You're like, okay. And I, you know, in that moment I was like, all right, I've got a choice here. I can fold, I can run and I can be like, I am. Mother effing humiliated, or I can step into who I think I really am, which is going to be a public mainstage speaker. I'm going to speak life and enthusiasm into thousands and thousands of women and mothers of many children, and I'm going to, I'm going to give them all the goods.
So at that moment, okay, and that was like five years ago, I said. I'm just going to do it. I'm going to do the presentation and it to me it almost didn't even matter if no one showed up. I had already committed. I'm still going to do it. So I did it. I did the entire presentation and the library staff. You guys even felt so much sorrow for me that the library staff came in just to like fill a couple extra seats.
But I did it. I did it with enthusiasm. I did the entire presentation. Then homegirl and I went across the street to the taco place, got some margaritas and some queso because every, you know, downturn in your life can be solved, arguably with some queso and margaritas. So we did that. And. I took my bra off because that's what I do.
And it like puts me back in my comfort zone and yes, in the restaurant, I just took it off, shoved it in my purse and we just kicked back with some queso and margs and we talked about all the things and it ended up being a wonderful night. But I was like, that was funny. But when I. You know, posted about it on social.
I didn't lie. I said, I had a great presentation tonight. I gave a lot of great information and I nailed it. And I did for that one person that was in the room. So fast forward now, like she played into that level of energy. Cause I'm like, okay, I don't need, IgE advice. You could correct me if I'm wrong, but I had one person that was willing to listen to me.
So if I was not willing to speak to that one person, what would a room of a hundred have made a difference of? So even in, okay, tactical. Even if you get to the Instagram stuff, people are always like, how do I grow? How do I grow my following? How do I grow my following? How do I get thousands of people?
I'm like, listen man, if you're not even speaking to the 15 that you've got, what is the thousand gonna do? 2000, 3000? I mean, if you can't get 15 people to fall in love with you, you're not gonna get 30,000 to fall in love with you . So like, let's just be real here and. Speak to who you are. So anyway, sorry, I went off on a little tangent there, but it sounded so relevant.
Well, you're talking about so many important principles inside the manifestation process, like, without even really, like, being an expert on it yourself, like, number one, acting as if is, like, Most people will quit in the face of tests and the universe is testing you continually, like how bad do you actually want this because what's on the other side when you have 100 people in front of you, 1000 people in front of you, can you handle that?
Like, that's really what they're asking. And it starts with one. And so I love that you're saying this because most people can. We'll give up three feet before goals. Like they will always give up right before it's going to come to fruition. And I believe that there are these little tests along the way of how bad do you actually want it?
So, no, totally. All right. So talk about like the being as if factor. So there's a saying, you'll know it, everyone will know it. And I despise this saying, because it just feels like. Icky, like makes my skin crawl. So when people say fake it till you make it, I'm like, ah, no, no, no, no, no, no. I don't think acting as if is faking it, but tell me from your perspective, what is the difference between acting as if, because if you're acting as if, I mean, I guess if we're getting into the wordle here, you are kind of faking it, but I don't know, fake just feels like plastic inorganic.
Um, That's, that's what I get. It's like, no, I'm not faking anything. I'm just like, yeah, breathing into it, but I don't know how to make, I don't know the words, the words escape me to get the separation of the two. So you go, I'll bet you'll do it. I think the difference for me is a confidence level. It's like faking feels like it could be lying or deceitful and acting as if is a confidence level.
And I always say to people, you know, when you're acting as if that version of you that has that level of business that has that level of clientele, what is she thinking? What is she feeling? What is she doing? How is she posting differently on social media? Do her photo shoots look different? Does she have a website?
Like, you know, you can think about all the tactical things and also the mind that mindset things that go into that, but you're not lying saying you already have a thousand clients or you already have that level of business. You're just starting to make more confident decisions like she would to close that gap quicker.
No. Okay. Yes. Nailed it. So here recently for me, I posted about it. Um, maybe on Facebook. Cause my content changes based on which platform I'm on because my whole audience is different between the two platforms. So anyway, I had posted about like, Oh, like I know that I probably ought to have a website and I don't have one yet.
And my assistant, um, she's awesome. She does websites, SEO, um, like blog stuff. Like she's killer. And she obviously works with me. And, uh, one day I'm going to buy her out. Okay, Maggie, I know you're hearing this right now. I'm going to buy you out and you're going to be my full time assistant. So I'm putting that right out there right now.
Um, at any rate. I was like going back and forth between getting a website and it really was not like mind blowingly expensive, but I was like, what am I, what, why am I even going back and forth about this? And I had to really get inside myself and figure out what, what is that block? Like, what am I telling myself?
And I was like, well, I think I'm telling myself that first I said it was the money. I was like, well, it's expensive. And I mean, it's like, I don't know, a couple thousand bucks. Which is, I guess, for some people listening, that's like mind blowing. For me, that's not a mind blowing amount of money, but I was like, well, it's expensive.
And then I was like, what am I talking about? That's expensive. Like, that's not, for me, that's not that bad, because I'm just at a different income bracket. And I'm like, alright, it's not the money, why am I making that be the excuse? And then I got going into it, and I'm like, ah, well, this is where the Christian side of me comes in.
So I genuinely believe that there is evil at work on every plane of existence, as well as there is good. And the evil will work to derail you at every turn. When you're about to make a big breakthrough, you're going to start creating these stories. Oh, it's too expensive. But like, is it really? Well, no, it's actually not.
Um, And well, why? Well, for me, I was like, okay, this must be the next level. This must be the thing I have to do to move to that next plane of existence. And when I spoke to Maggie, who's creating my website now, actually, because I did do it, I was like, you know what, let's. I feel like this is a block being put here by the negative, energetic, you know, forces, you know, devil, whatever, whatever you want to call it.
Like that's being put in front of me right now and creating these stories in my mind. And I think we just, we got to go, we got to plow. And she was like, all right, let's do it. So I signed the contract, she's working on the website, excited to launch it. But as soon as I kind of gave in and like went through that and like, it all went away.
You know, the money went away, but it didn't matter. Like I told myself it mattered before. So when people are working on manifestation, tell me about what in your perspective, what are those blocks that they feel? Because I guarantee you, the reason most of you are not doing exactly what you want to be doing and getting exactly what you want out of life is because you have told yourself something, or you have believed some ridiculous story that flashed into your head.
And then you took it, owned it. And then made it your truth and posted it on your mother freaking forehead as the gospel when it in fact is not. So tell me from your side, what is that like negativity that stops people from doing what they really want to be doing? Yeah, we talked about the worthiness side, which I think is a big piece of it, especially when people are first starting to grow things and first starting to put themselves out there.
The next piece for me that I always talk about with clients is a fear of success. And I always say, I actually think we have a bigger fear of success than anything else, because as you start growing this, and as you start putting yourself out there more, you don't know what the next level looks like. You don't know how much your life is going to change.
You've never had that level of income before. You don't know what that means for your family or your relationship. And we start to subconsciously fear how some things in life might change. Once we get to that next level of success and what we might lose along the way from doing it. And so we will hold ourselves back from building websites or going forward and doing the speaking gig or starting a podcast or whatever it is, because it's comfy.
And it's easier to stay where we are than to grow to something that we've never done before and get out of that comfort zone. And. If I can just add a little piece, if you're feeling like that, or that's resonating for you, my life only got better as I got more successful, you know, I didn't lose out on things.
And my relationship has never been better. And our family has never been better and money's never been better. And I've never been able to do more and give more from having this level of success. So. Remind yourself of that as you're starting to bump up against that yourself and surrounding yourself with people who are successful themselves.
That's another reason we all talk about that is because it helps you bridge that gap or that barrier where you might be afraid of success because you can see. Oh, look, like they're doing great. Like they're thriving because of it. No doubt. I think you definitely have to get into, um, you know, it's talked about a lot in the business circle, right?
You have to get into different rooms. You have to get in with different people who have a different perspective. So when you're talking to someone who's just down and out, they're lousy, you know, who they are, like you've met them. You're like, Oh gosh, um, you are one miserable human. And you're like, next, please.
You know, you're going to move on to the next person, but you have to get into the room with people that are. Thinking bigger than where you're at. So where I was at, I mean, I was like, yeah, it's going all right, but it's not where I want to go. And then speaking into that fear of what the next level is, I never really thought that I was afraid of success, but it did kind of hit me that maybe I'm not the only one that's a little bit afraid.
Of success, my husband, so my husband's awesome and he is the most generous, kind, like beautiful soul. I never wanted kids. You guys never wanted to be married until I met him. Yes. Until I met him, I was like, okay, I can have a baby with that guy because he is just such a beautiful person. I am so in love with him and we've been married almost 18 years.
Okay. And I am still just wild about the guy. Well, oh gosh, what was that about a year ago? So with that being said, he's also not highly ambitious. Right. He's very successful in his own rights. Like he's military fighter pilot got, you know, a seat with an aircraft that not many people get. He was like instructor of the year for the entire air force.
He's got a whole wall of accolades of being just total bad ass at what he does, but he's not like, I think I'm going to grow a business on the side of this too. Although if he wanted to, he could, he just doesn't feel drawn to it. Like I do. And he asked me one night, he said, sometimes I think that. I don't level up or measure up to other men that you might be attracted to that are more ambitious.
And I was like, Oh, Oh, I, I never knew that that was a thought that was stemming inside of his head. And, uh, I had to like sit and think about that. Like, well, Am I attracted to super ambitious men and he isn't like, I actually, no, actually I'm not, I'm not attracted to those type of men because it feels like way too much fire.
We can only have one flame going here y'all, or we're going to burn the whole damn house down. So that is me. I'll take that. But that's probably why my oldest son and I. We are absolutely best friends because he's kind of past parenting at this point. He'll be 16 in a couple weeks. So it's more like mentor mentee with him, but he and I are both twin flames, you guys.
So when things get passionate. They get real, real quick. And then, you know, my other son, I've got two, well, four, three, four total, three others. Um, you know, my other little guy, he is not so much like that. He's very quiet, very reserved, and he'll just come up with something one day. You're like, oh, so you've been chewing on that for a while.
My point is What, how other people play into your energy, you've really gotta start taking a check of because he brought up that idea. Like, is this something I need to be afraid of with your continued and growing success? Are you, are you going to leave me? Am I going to be left behind? And that was such a beautiful time really to hear that fear and say, absolutely not.
I married you because you are more reserved because you are more gentle. Um, because you are so kind, like, that's why I picked you. Right? So the energetic field of people around you, we already said that they have to be at that level in order to align. So when we talk about levels, like my brain is going to video game land because you know, Hashtag for boys.
Um, What is the levels? Like, it's not like segmented, right? Or is this, and you're talking about, um, frequency, you said that before. And I am aware of frequency in terms of like chakras and opening them and healing and church bells and the ringing of bells and all that is a certain frequency that your body can align with.
But I am talking way outside of my area of genius. I'm just aware of it. So tell me a little bit more about what. Frequency means and how you change that. Cause it can't be like a dial on a stereo or that would be way too freaking easy. I really like to think of it as more like, like the tracks, like, because you can get into learning about different planes.
And some people believe in like. 3D, 4D, 5D, 7D, and like, I don't like to complicate the process like that because I think that goes back to what we were talking about before, like, all these checklists of things you need to do, like, you're gonna pull yourself so far out of manifestation if you're like, I've gotta align my chakras.
And I've got to get up at 5 a. m. and I've got to write this to do list and that. Like my morning routine before I really got good at manifestation, I used to think I had to do a list of like 25 things every single morning to be able to like be in the right energy to manifest good things and that it has nothing to do with that.
You are manifesting 100 percent of the time every single day. It's not just because you did a to do list of items like that. And so this energy playing field is more about like attracts like, so if you are a more positive person, you're going to attract more positive situations. If you think about when you're having a bad day and then it just starts to spiral from there.
And I think you actually talked about this in a post recently and I was laughing to myself cause I say this all the time or I used to, it comes in threes. It's like, you're having a bad day. Oh, it comes in threes. It's like, Yeah, because we're starting to attract more of the like bad or negative situations to us on that playing field when you're in a playing field of gratitude and expectation and manifesting the large tips that we were talking about.
You're going to put yourself in the light category of the people who also leave those kinds of tips and it's not up to you how that starts to happen. It's just up to you to understand that. That is the science behind it, like attracts like, and you can decide to tip the scales in your favor at any point in time, but you don't need to be 100 percent of the time there all the time, just tip the scales more than 50 percent and you'll start to see a major change in just everyday things happening around you.
No doubt. And that was one moment too. I was like, Oh boy, you know, cause I catch myself oftentimes saying, of course that would happen, you know, or I'm like pretty standard. And it'll be in a moment of frustration where something will go wrong again. I'll be like, yep, standard. Standard for and I'm like, No, no, that is not the standard.
I don't want that to be the standard. So I mean, I don't even know how am I addressing that? Like, I think about it and it's usually like, I'll say it and I'll be like, Oh, no, idiot. That's not it. And then I'll be like, Okay, this happened. What can I learn from it? And then they like, you know what they say? It comes in threes.
And I'm like, Okay, but no, no, I am not. That is not within. Okay. That is not within my life plan to have a biopsy come back, um, badly. That is not within my life plan. I don't accept it. So right now I'm like really, really focusing on complete health, total healing, and this, the other two things. Okay. I got that going and you know, we'll see what that leads to in the end.
So, you know, when I go into my appointment next week, like I'm still going to get it checked out because I think that's responsible, but I'm expecting a totally healthy result because of everything I've put in place. To achieve, you know, max maximizing my health so that I can be most effective for my family and for my business and for my clients and for everybody else that I haven't even begun to serve yet.
Like that big stage. I think I started to tell you that I pitched myself for mom con 2024 in Denver. Okay. That's a big stage. And I was like, Hey, I think I'd be great as a main stage speaker. And they were like. Maybe a workshop. I'm like, maybe, but pretty sure main stage would be amazing. And, uh, she's like, okay, we'll call you.
I'm like, okay, when should I follow up? And she's like. We'll call you. Okay, cool. So, you know, I'm like setting myself, I'm doing the thing. Okay. I have applied to the website as a speaker for local smaller groups. I've put my name out there, like, Hey, anyone want me to talk about? And I listed every area I think I am an expert in.
And even that can sound a little pretentious, but I think in terms of putting yourself on the level of people who speak, um, I think you have to be. A little bit arrogant, like just a tiny bit arrogant, you know, maybe arrogance, confidence. They all have to work together to say, I am your girl. Like what makes you my girl?
Well, I just am. Okay. And then you get better at it as you do it. But I think most people. Stop themselves as you quoted three feet from their goals, uh, because they're like, well, I'm not though. Okay. But can you be, can you be with the right amount of training with the right amount of, uh, belief? I think first, right?
Would you say belief has to come first? Totally. If you don't believe that you're worthy of standing on a stage someday, you'll just never do it. It'll just live as an idea in your head, but you go back to the acting as if, and it's a borderline, a moment of delusion. It's like anytime I've manifested something that was really important to me, or it was a big jump, you know, like speaking from.
One level to the main stage at mom con. It's like a lot of people would argue if they were to put themselves in that situation. They have no business, you know, applying to speak on the stage like that, but every single time I've manifested something big in my life. I had no business doing that, but it's not supposed to be logical when you're manifesting something and you want to go after what you really want.
You don't need the stepping stones in between. You just need to believe. for having me. It's possible for you and take the action as she would, which would mean applying to be on MomCon. That's exactly what you would do if you were a speaker that's speaking all the time. Right. And okay, so you said you don't have to have the stepping stones.
Here's another thing I see pretty often is people want to know How they want to know how it's going to happen. And from my understanding with manifestation, like you don't do the, how you just do the, the what, and then you start acting as if you are that person that would be in the, what or receiving the, what, and then the house sort of takes care of itself.
Is that how this works? Yeah, they always say the how's not up to you, like that's the universe to take care of the details. That was really hard for me at first to accept because I am a type A person and I am a control freak and I like to know what's going on. And so at the beginning, I find if you're just getting used to letting go of the how, write out all the different ways it could become possible for you.
So if we're talking about you going to MomCon, okay. If they want to book you for a workshop, great. You don't know who might be sick that day that can't speak on stage and they slide you in. Like, think of all the ways that this could be possible for you and still working in your favor. Same with the thousand dollars we're manifesting over the holidays or whatever it might be.
It's like, can you make a giant list of all the ways this could happen for you? Not that it has to happen that way, but your mind starts to open up to more opportunities and more possibilities, and it can handle the reality of like, wait a second, this could happen for me. Why not me? Versus like, that'll never happen.
Things like that never happened to me. That's how you can start to let go of the how a little bit. Oh, my gosh. You know what? And what you just said, um, turning this back on you a little bit is going to be massive when you go into labor, because I think a lot of women try to control the narrative on how their body labors and how they birth and where it's going to be and who's going to be there.
And I'll tell you, girl, your body will have its own idea of you can set it up for success, but. The idea of completely releasing expectation go, it's universal. Like the expectation of how anything is going to go. How could it go? Well, it could happen at home peacefully at 5 45 AM. And then I call the midwife and she comes over.
How could it go? Well, my water could break while we're in the car and the baby could be coming very quickly. And I could, like, you could have. A billion different choose your own adventure paths, but to be able to release to the entire process and like, okay, I am here for this outcome, outcome a, which is in my opinion, the only outcome that truly matters in the end is that mom and baby are both healthy.
The path you take to get there is going to be unique and you can map it all out. But it's going to be what it is. Now, if you start thinking and dreading and everything, I think that's going to play into how your body shifts. And you know, my, my path right now with speaking is kind of the same process. I was like, well, how would I be considered relevant and credible to be on a stage speaking to 10, 000 moms about, you know, a plethora of subjects?
How would I be? That person and, uh, I say, well, I could have a podcast and actually start speaking to thousands of people. I could grow my instagram following and do lives and actually speak to 20, 30, 000 people. Um, how else could I be doing this? And well, I can apply to, you know, all these paths. Like, do I know?
Ultimately, I don't know the end result. I don't even know the how all I know is I got to put something. Got to put one foot in front of the other and the path is not always lit for you to see two miles ahead of you. But can you see right in front of you? Can you take the next step? Whatever that looks like.
That's such a good point because I think we stand at the bottom of the mountain and the top of the mountain being like your goal or the thing you're looking to manifest right now. And we want to know the whole path up the mountain in order to get there. But you're not going to see the next best path, the next best shortcut until you start taking those first couple steps in front of you.
And those are your inspired action items. So for you, that's applying to mom con and starting your podcast. And so when you guys are thinking about this with what you want to manifest, what are your next inspired actions? Because once you start taking those, then a couple more will open up for you and you start to shorten that path to the top of the mountain even quicker.
No kidding. So tell me, what is it that you teach in your course? Tell me about what you do to help other people. And, uh, I need to know where, I mean, I know where to find you on Instagram. That's, I think, where did I find you originally? It had to have been some other podcast I was listening to. And then I was like, Oh, sounds interesting.
So then I found you on Instagram and then became like kind of a little stalker, maybe. And I was like, let me watch all the things, let me hear the things. And uh, so tell me, what about, what do you do to help people around this? Cause I'm sure this podcast is just going to speak life and pull up even more questions.
Um, but tell me what you do to help people wherever they can find you, all the things. Yeah, my biggest thing is helping people bring the manifestation process into the tactical things and business things that they're doing throughout the day so that they can change their results, get there quicker, get there in a more aligned way that feels better for them.
And so I do that through lots of my different programs and lots of my different trainings all over on my podcast as well. So you can find me over on Instagram to start and lots of my links are over there for you to get started and. Whatever capacity feels good for you right now. And then of course you can tap into the podcast too, which is a manifestation and money, honey.
We talk a lot about manifestation and money together over there. And I give a new episode every single week where we're talking about this stuff all the time. Oh, man, that's a great point. All right, so to leave our listeners with something both tactical and mindset, if we want, whatever it is that we want, okay, what is step number one?
And then you guys have to subscribe to her podcast, go to her IG, go to the website, check out the programs to get the rest of it. But what is step one? Step one is deciding actually exactly what you want. Like, exactly. Is it the thousand dollars? Is it speaking on stage? Like, you'll notice we were very specific in our conversations today.
So, know exactly what you want. Because the universe can't play with vague descriptions or something in between. So know that, write it down somewhere where you can look at it every single day. That is like, always step number one. I love it. All right. Thank you so much for your time. Thank you for being here.
I can't wait to just learn so much more. Um, because I think I've got a lot of the tactical side, but I've got to get more of the mental side. So you guys, I am still for sure, um, a work in progress and I'm still working on how my. Beliefs align with this because I truly believe for me, the, the universe is God.
He, the, the, the energy, you know, if you go back to just physics class, it's neither created nor destroyed. It's only transferred. So if you believe in God and you believe God is, was, and always has been the, oh, the alpha, the omega, then. He is energy and it never can be newly created. It can only be transferred.
And he is that for me and he wants what's best. And I think those blocks that are put in place could be him could be the evil side. It could be another test. I mean, I won't share this story right now. If you're curious, you can DM me. Uh, but I had a test when it came to homeschooling my kids. It was very early on with my first and my husband called it for what it was.
He was like, this is a test to see if we're actually going to do this. And I made a choice that seemed really dumb at the time, but now looking back, I can see how all of that was working in my favor to exactly who he is as a human. When later they told us that, oh man, kid is massively ADD. And the psychologist said, it's a dang good thing you homeschool him.
And I thought. I had no idea at the time. Because I turned down a very coveted spot in a school and people were like, you said, no, nobody says no. I'm like, and now you're going to homeschool. You were a nurse. I'm like, yeah, I know. I know how ridiculous all this sounds, but now I can see how it all worked together for his benefit.
So thank you. And I know that you being here today is working towards someone else's benefit and someone else's new creation and 2024 y'all is going to be the year of your life, own it, believe it, speak it, write it, live it. All right, Brittany. Thank you so much for being here and, uh, I will catch you again.
Thanks you guys. All right. Ciao friend.